Frelationship – It is friendship and relationship mixed together… it is defined as that friendship that is not defined and almost looks like a relationship – My sister
I remember when I started dating my hubby, we were friends, very close friends and my sister would tell me then that we better define what we are doing because to her, it was a relationship and she defined it as a friendship that already feels like a relationship but isn’t yet a relationship….You know what I mean, at one point in our lives most of us have been in relationships and some of us still are…that guy or girl that just gets you, you guys discuss about anything or everything; the boys that are asking you out, the annoying friends, the fights with parents and almost any other stuff. They are the first person you want to talk to when there is a good or a bad news, you guys are constantly pinging, texting, hanging out, doing movies, even holding hands but you are not sure what you both are doing but you like yourselves or you like him and thinks he likes you too and you are not sure what to call what you guys have then whenever he or she tells you about a girl or guy they might like, you get upset and almost jealous…My dear it is time for the talk, you shouldn’t even had stayed that long.
It is best every friendship after sometime be defined except you both don’t have anything for each other; is it just a friendship or is it is a Frelationship because you don’t want to go down the road where you start asking awkward questions like why are you treating me this way? don’t you know you are hurting me? And you get awkward answers like, how am I hurting you? I thought we were just friends, why are you acting up all of a sudden?
Frelationship can cause you to lose a very beautiful friendship, so I would just like to advice you to be sure what you guys are up to….To those of us in Frelationships, please don’t expect too much from the person you are doing this with, don’t even expect a valentine present but please if you get as much as a valentine message from them, then you need to have a talk except you are certain you do not feel anything for each other…
Have you seen the friendzone reality episode on Mtv? if you have then you understand what I mean but if you haven’t, basically it is always about two people that have a good friendship then one would want to take it further(relationship) to see if the feeling is mutual and sometimes realise the feeling isn’t mutual or vice versa…Long and short of the story, dont waste your emotions on someone that don’t feel same for you, find out and if the person is mature enough, it will not affect your relationship totally.
Tell us if you have ever been ‘friendzoned’ and how it turned out…Also feel free to disagree with me…
Frelationship is what I believe we all come across once or more in lyf.Well,it was sad becos I rili loved her buh I knew we wudn’t walk d isle(so she says becos of age factor).she’s married now n still a frnd. #it hurts thou.
I’ve been in this spot before. The story began right after secondary school. I spent a year at home before going to the university, I didn’t have much to do apart from house chores so I got talking to this guy who I had met through my brother. We started texting once in a while and before I knew it we became really good friends. As our friendship developed, I began to like him but was not sure how he felt about me. Sometimes I felt he liked me and other times I felt he had only friendship on his mind. On two occasions, two different guys told me that they had been interested in a relationship with me but did not come forward to ask because they had the impression that I was in a relationship with this my friend. When I probed as to why they will think so, their answers showed that they got their impression from him or his circle. But he never did pop the question. We were close until he told me that he had seen someone that he wanted to get married to. He told me this on a Saturday
How Defined Is Your Relationship??: Chinwe and Sam were course mates and fellowship members in the University. As a result, they were very close, always doing things together daily. Chinwe misconstrued this as being in a relationship. Sam, on his own, was enjoying the friendship and was prepared to do anything for chinwe, who did not hesitate to expose her past and future to sam. But she never observed that sam never told her about his own life. All brothers that desired to marry chinwe thought she was already engaged to sam. After schooling, they were both posted to the North for service. As a result, they both exchanged regular visits. After service, they returned to Lagos and got good employment. Six months later, sam sent his wedding invitation card to chinwe, who was so affected that it landed her in the hospital. When sam was queried, he said he never thought of marrying her as he was already engaged before meeting her. He concluded that he only saw her like his younger