Hey guys I kind of need your advice. I just started working at this really cool place we’re everybody is nice,cool and really friendly but amongst these friendly people one stood out. From the first day I walked in I noticed him and I think he noticed me too because I remember asking myself why he felt the need to walk by a couple of times when he clearly didn’t have a reason to. He’s a really nice guy and very shy. My department is under his so we have to work closely and report any problems to him. I noticed I’d find my self wishing there was a problem so I could go to him to report just to see him.
We talked mostly about work and acted really professional all the time but he started coming into my office to say hello or check if everybody was ok everyday. Most times he would just come and ask if everything is ok and when he’s there he finds a way to say something to me, which surprised everybody because they said he never came into the office or really talk to them until I arrived. That mostly he kept to himself and they were used to it,so they only look for him when it’s important.
The others in my department started sending me to him when they have a problem because they said he handles my work personally but passes theirs off to someone else,when clearly he’s the best and everybody prefers him working on their task personally,hearing that made me happy. After awhile I told myself that maybe I just liked flirting with him because he’s extra shy that it’s adorable and that the extra half hour I spend in front of the mirror every morning was because I feel like and not because I want to look extra nice incase I have to go to him and report another “problem”.
Everybody in my department concluded he was nice but that in my case it was more than being nice that liked me and started to say maybe because he is so shy and I look unapproachable that’s why he hasn’t said anything but I told myself and them that we were just being really nice to each other while doing our jobs,that there’s nothing and that I can’t even date a colleague. So I come in 2 days later and hear he got a better job and has resigned,immediately I feel so sad and helpless because I realised I wasn’t just being nice or flirting, I actually like him a lot, I don’t know why I like him but I do and now he’s gone and we didn’t get to talk about much except work or even exchange contacts. Now I’m thinking if I should just let it go or ask for his number. BT if I do get his number I can’t call him because it’s something I don’t think I can bring myself to do or what do you guys think?
Hey baby go ask for his number and give it to me and I’ll call him for you to set it up. And no fears, I’m a guy so you are safe.lol. But on a serious note my dear, I see love as an equaliser, as something that causes us to put aside our ego and personality, but not our values. So set aside that ego that is not helping you and make a move towards what you want. And hey, see the irony; if you were only fond of him and had no feelings for him, you would have made a move to reach him to check up on him and also express displeasure in his leaving that way. But the person you can admit that you like, let me assume that you care about, which you should quickly check up on, you are speaking grammar. Please my dear, go get his number today, show some care and be sure of why he left the job and make a move towards what your heart longs for. But please still keep your emotions together. You are blessed. God bless you.
Ok. Simple solution, apply for a job in his new office. Stalk him, follow him. since you like him, you cant live without him, find him, get him… April fool. on a serious note, don’t ask for his number. If he thinks of you and likes you, then he knows where to find you. If he really cared I am sure he would have told you he is leaving the job. And PLEASE don’t blame his oversight on his shyness. Based on what you said, you reported alot of “problems” to him and he also started visiting your department frequently. So I am confident he should have told you he is LEAVING. However, if your feelings for him is overwhelming, then look for him on social media, facbook, twitter, linkedin. Connecting with him tru social media wont look so desperate. Then from there, God help you guys. Perhaps he is already your friend on Facebook, just say hi one day. Don’t ask him why he left ooo, Guys still like girls who play hard to get. Best of Luck.
Hmm. If this guy liked you enough, why did he not tell you before leaving for the new job…or was he whisked away. I think if he cared he could have found a way to reach out. So pls control your feelings and move on.
you are very right!
Pls get his number and call him, u never can tell why he didn’t tell u or hasn’t buzzed u either. If u dint have feelings for him and he was ur ‘paddy’ wldnt u call? Wld u be asking any1 for wht to do? So do it frm dat lyt. Same as d outcome of ur call if it leads to a string of fone calls and a date or two dat ain’t bad…if it doesn’t then u’ll be fine as well. Just don’t bite urself saying ‘shld I have called?’ call him jor, it doesn’t make u any less of ‘u’! Be as cordial and friendly as possible, ask why he left, be his paddy’ for the moment cos truth is its only in ur mind u knw u hv feelings he doesnt….but after dat ONE call (say all ur friendly things n he shld takecare and all) PLEASEEEE do not call again!! If he doesn’t call NEVER call again, resist the temptation. Men r eeeeverywhere hehehehe!
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Pls get his number and call him, u never can tell why he didn’t tell u or hasn’t buzzed u either. If u dint have feelings for him and he was ur ‘paddy’ wldnt u call? Wld u be asking any1 for wht to do? So do it frm dat lyt. Same as d outcome of ur call if it leads to a string of fone calls and a date or two dat ain’t bad…if it doesn’t then u’ll be fine as well. Just don’t bite urself saying ‘shld I have called?’ call him jor, it doesn’t make u any less of ‘u’! Be as cordial and friendly as possible, ask why he left, be his paddy’ for the moment cos truth is its only in ur mind u knw u hv feelings he doesnt….but after dat ONE call (say all ur friendly things n he shld takecare and all) PLEASEEEE do not call again!! If he doesn’t call NEVER call again, resist the temptation. Men r eeeeverywhere hehehehe!
Please get his number and call him sharply. Simple and short.
Pls if u can get his number, call him and check up on him…BT I dnt tink dis guy has any feelings 4 u…so jst get ur mind off him…