It is common knowledge that dating and marriage is different, especially when it comes to the effort we put in. Well it shouldn’t be but anyway, some things will change and today I am going to talk about our looks. My sister jokingly told me before I got married that the best advice she got before marriage was ” don’t let go”, As an indoor person, I can be a total home buddy, I like the baggy trouser, bigger shirts, hair net with good company, movie, book or just writing but I soon realised that this can work for me but when it comes to marriage, I have to make an effort, like wear that fitted top and a bum short and sometimes I even add a quick make up…loll! I remember one time in trying to make an effort, I wore high heels, just for Mrpossible to be stuck in traffic, I got tired and pulled it off and have never tried it again. Ladies I know we like our comfort clothes and sometimes over familiarity creeps into the marriage and next thing from that sweet little girl your husband calls you, you slowly become his “GUY”, his roommate and forget to be his sexy wife and soon enough your hubby forgets how you looked when he was chasing you all over town, if he doesn’t tell you, he might even think of it, some men get so use to it, that they don’t even bother the wife anymore to make an effort, they just feed their eyes in the office…loll, for the fact your hubby is a “spiricoco” aka Christian brother, doesn’t mean he is blind. They notice good things o, I only hope the good things they notice is on you. I agree it is not easy for you to take care of the house, the kids, the cooking, laundry, assignments of the kids and still try to put on the sexy wife charade.  It is even easier to become the mother to all your kids including your hubby but I beg ehn, try a little, there are days where you would let go but pick yourself back up quick and get back on the not letting go wagon… It is a constant struggle but keep pushing till not letting go is the only option. images2           And I know the men felt I would leave them  out of this, the effort doesn’t end with us ladies, you should also make an effort to look good most of the time, after marriage most men feel they have done their best and given the most effort in the relationship, after all, the chase is over, we have no choice but to accept you whatever you decide to transform into, all of a sudden, you get the pot belly and cannot care less or start bursting out from clothes and develop a “whatever we see,we should take” attitude. We want you to still look like the guy we fell in love  with as we try to be the girl you fell in love with, yeah we agree beauty is skin deep and it’s not the container that matters but the content inside the container but don’t forget that we signed up for a packaged deal, some of us even gave the content a chance because of the container, so keep that container(looks) sharp men!!!. All I am trying to say is this, let us make an effort to look great for our spouse and try not to let go!
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