I have been in a relationship for a year and 2months with this guy but I told him I don’t want to date anymore and he wept, telling me he would move on but we still talk like 5times daily and even though he told me that he has asked another girl out, he still don’t want to let me go and I cant define what I feel for him but I cant date him again because he is a public figure and a lot of girls flirt around him and I don’t know why I cant date him and still cant let him go, why is it so hard and how can I work on my emotions toward him?
I left the relationship because I have never been in a relationship this long, and was afraid that he may hurt me one day by ending the relationship either by words or by actions because I cannot trust him again and I want to move on with my life, I want to be the way I was before I met him.
I think you should begin by severing all contact with him. If you are sure that you don’t want to be with him then there’s no need to be in contact with him so often. Not to say you will be keeping malice with him but you need to protect yourself and also allow him to do so too. It’s not surprising that you find it hard to let go. You were in a relationship with this guy and probably invested your physical mental and emotional energy in the relationship. It’s time to take back all you’ve invested from that relationship. This is not always an easy thing to do. I have been in your shoes before and I believe that there is more than meets the eyes in such scenarios. A past relationship has the potential to destroy a meaningful future relationship if one doesn’t completely let go of and deal with the negative effects of the past relationship. In addition to severing all contact with this person I’ll advice you to pray to break every soul tie you might have with him.
I think, u need prayers,I mean Gods intervention.You have rightly identified that you have problem,and problem identified is half solved.You have identified that you don’t stay in a relationship long,secondly you are tied of your present guy and you have told him so,yet you don’t want to let go.its only God that can help you out of your confusion.Seek the face of God sincerely and he will give deliver you,give you good direction and peace of mind.shallom
Trust me, u really don’ t knw wat u won’t & its so obvious u are nt saying the whole truth. Ur story does not have a base.
The thing pain you shaaaaaa lol.
I think you probably left the relationship because of fear of getting hurt and I am guessing he gave you a reason to feel that way but if he did not give you, then it could be based on a past hurt you’ve experienced , that you have not confronted and it is holding you back from loving and trusting again… I agree with anon 12:39, for you to get back to who you used to be, first of all severe every communication, however I know the feeling of someone always checking on you and making you feel special but this is something you have to do and learn to enjoy being alone for some time, you will be amazed what you would discover about yourself, your strength and weaknesses and you will become stronger by the time you are ready to get into the next relationship. All the best!