- Make the most of your individuality: Being apart is a time for rediscovery. Knowing who you are, what you can do to make your life better… Afterall before the marriage you were first an individual, make the most of this individuality, that dream you had before that you have not been able to put into fusion, use the time apart to try to put things into perspective and possibly jump-start that dream.
- Communicate, communicate, communicate!- Communication cannot be overemphasized, It is the backbone of any relationship, and when you are doing a LDR and LDM, try not to make all your conversation problem-centred or baby-centred, talk about you guys too and get
a bitsexy a lot. - Anytime your spouse visits, make the most of it: Bring out those cooking utensils, your Sunday’s best, and whip him or her an amazing meal also you can give the baby to a babysitter, sister, mother for some hours ,so you guys could catch up, you know what I mean *WINKWINK* I know what you are thinking(spoilt children) I mean movies, gist etc. well, just show your spouse in the best possible way, that they have been missed.
- Surprise visits, messages etc are welcomed: It is never old, surprise your spouse by showing up in their location if possible, sending them a thoughtful gift or an amazing message out of the blue…it works like a charm.
- Cancel appointments, put on hold what can be put on hold especially during short visits: Try very well, when your spouse is in town, isn’t the time to go catch up with your friends, make unneccesary long aproko calls with your friends, making your hubby a babysitter so you would go hang out with your girls
- Spouse to-do list: Some of us, as soon as our spouse tells us they are coming to visit, we just prepare everything they have to do, Inshort your spouse kind of knows he/she is going to work so hard when they come…Please before your spouse comes over especially when it isn’t a surprise visit, don’t have a to- do list for them, he shouldn’t start fixing spoilt bulbs, repairing everything, she shouldn’t come and immediately you drive her to the market so she can fix you a meal…cook for a change men and ladies, get a handy guy to fix as much as you can before your spouse comes around.
- Spruce up guys!: Some of us act like our spouse visitation is the rapture, meanwhile you knew he./she was coming a long time ago, you act like it just came suddenly, we end up cleaning up ourselves while they are there and some of us don’t even make an effort…let us say your spouse was away for 3months, that was enough time for you to leave your hair undone, and grow hair in every place and bask in it, but when they are coming over, please clean up or do I say spruce up?! Don’t go all Robinson Crusoe(stuck in a primitive era) Please shave everywhere that has to be, make nice hair, smell nice, let them know what they have missed.
Long distance relationship (marriage)
categories: Marriage