Amazing couple! Read their story…
I will try not to overly spiritualize this topic (if that is even a thing!), but hear me out when I say it is true what that chapter on love in the new testament of the bible said that love is long suffering and bears all things. I am a living, real, successful example of perseverance “in love”. I am now married to the man of my dreams who keeps surprising me every day in good and not so good ways (its true what they say, you will never fully know your spouse or fiancé until you live in the same house and wake up from the same bed). I have been legally married to my “aboo” now for 5 months and we have lived together for 2. Before we got here, we had been engaged twice, if you can believe it.



Our story began 15 years ago when we were preadolescent kids attending the same church and in the Sunday school. He crushed on me; I didn’t like him at all for the 5 years we were there together. This was because he was the shining kid in Sunday school, who all of us bad kids should emulate, remember all those goody-two-shoes, who made all of us stubborn kids look bad. According to my husband he really crushed on me when we were teenagers and never got the chance to say anything to me about it. On my end, I didn’t know he liked me or even thought of me, cos I really disliked him.
Fast track 2 years later and we were in a university in Nigeria together for a few months. He was a big boy on campus them (300L mechanical engineering boys were oh so cool then) and I was a mere premed jambite (not cool at all). We reconnected by the help of a mutual friend, but I still didn’t like him then, because he seemed so arrogant and super-sure of himself when I was a nervy newbie. He never even registered on my radar as a cute guy or a prospective husband or anything like that.
Fast forward another 6 years and here comes a friend request on Facebook and it’s this kid I grew up with. With age comes maturity and of course my unfounded dislike for him has vanished in a pool of knowledge (LOL). We reconnect and began a friendship that gradually led to a cross Atlantic love affair. We were involved for about 6 months before we got engaged (the first time). Yes it was fast, but we were sure. God had spoken and we were well on our way to our happy ever after. Three months later, our worlds came crashing down on us. A disagreement that started as a normal misunderstanding led to roughly 10 days of anger and hate and lots of sadness. If you can believe it, we disagreed and broke up the engagement because he wanted to provide for me and I didn’t want him to the way he offered to (independent woman and all that). He had some other things that made me unhappy and disappointed in him, but they were not things that would have led anywhere coalesced into a break in engagement. In the 8 months before we reconnected and came back together by the grace of God, I thought that God had made a mistake and that I had heard wrong. In my mind, I would not have given my heart to this man if God hadn’t led me. I lost touch with reality for some months in there and my relationship with God suffered as well. I dug into work and listened to loads of love songs (made me sadder and depressed actually).




Like I said, God brought us back together and now we are married. A 15 year journey started as kids ended in the words “I DO”. I’m a writing this to encourage all the ladies in a relationship where it seems like you cannot go on one more day. You have heard God speak, you know he is the one, but things are not working. Persevere. True love suffers long, and it never dies. I encourage all the married women out there also thinking God has led you wrong. Hang in there, persevere. True love never dies. Wake up each day and take it bit by bit and trust God for the rest.

-AOE-

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