In the world at large, kids sleep in their parents room especially during infancy but in Africa it is commonplace  to have  even 5 years or older still sharing a bed with the parents, putting the hapless parents in awkward lying positions., Some parents no longer sleep in the traditional vertical position on the bed, they rather lie horizontally with folded legs so the bed fits all. In Nigeria, most kids rarely use cots and the privileged few soon get tired of it after few months, graduating to mum and dad’s bed. So question is, how  would it go down when it has to ‘go down’? Well I think, it is up to you when you have a guest (as I choose to call these young ‘intruders’) in your room to either make it count or kill your sex life altogether…I am a victim of a guest in room (my little daughter) who is pretty young and I chose to make my sex life count… If you missed my last post on this issue then click here I must confess it was not easy, making love with a baby in the room as switching from mother to sexy wife did not flow naturally but relax it will grow on you…hehehe some things would have to change though, from uncontrolled screams to rather muffled and subdued moans, at times when holding back could result in a catastrophic implosion, please let out the steam babes…(haba! should I die?). Guess what? on those days she may not wake up because she is fast asleep- it sometimes pays to totally wear them out during the day for your plot at night. 906658-sleeping-legs   Tips that may be helpful with a guest in room (GIR). Get a good bed: Your bed would either make your sex life or break it especially when there is a GIR. Let’s be honest, it is not every time you want to be adventurous by moving to another location to get your groove on, sometimes, you just want to have a lazy one and a noise making bed is a total buzz killer except your child is deep asleep or had some piriton pills. Learn to freeze : Did you ever play that game in school, where you say the word ‘FREEZE’ and everyone pauses where they are?  Yes, this game comes in handy in the bedroom, there are days where your baby would wake up and look around while you guys are getting on (immediately freeze, don’t move! as any move can be detrimental to the future of your ecstatic escapade.  Just freeze and hopefully after looking around like an inspector baby would go back to bed soon enough…hehehe. Be ready to do it in the dark: Turn your light down low ( in Bob Marley’s voice) hey parents,  if sometimes you like to do it when the room is bright and shiny, well with a baby, you would have to keep it dark, else your freezing moves as discussed above would not work , they are very smart and know when you are awake. Be prepared for a short-lived thrill: Nobody should vex o, if baby wakes up and begins to cry nonstop, oya show is over, go and sleep and be thankful for what you had. Not all cries demands total attention: Some of their cries are false alarm, wait it out, if child doesn’t calm down, then the show is over, sorry. Multitasking comes in handy: Ladies, we are great at multitasking, if baby cries just when the heat is coming on, stretch that hand and tap the child, while you continue your business or take a quick pause and attend  to the child assuring your spouse for a quick come back…sometimes you may have to sing for the baby with her pet name or quickly grab your phone and play a nursery rhyme she likes, video or game and hand it over especially when you chose an earlier time (afternoon,early evening e.t.c). The most amazing part of this whole GIR (Guest in  room) and sex parole is this, it teaches you how to be creative and discover new places, kitchen, room, parlour, bathtub, toilet, balcony ( be safe o! no one should fall over on my account). According to research, an infant is not capable of recognizing what you’re doing, but if it makes you feel more comfortable, turn your baby away from you. No studies have shown that a child who sees his or her parents having sex is going to be psychologically damaged but I think it is best you do what you are comfortable with. Below is what a counsellor had to about having sex with a child in the room Often it just works out to be intimate or have sex while the baby snoozes nearby. If your baby is safely positioned on one side of the bed or in a bassinet or crib  –  preferably asleep so you’re not distracted  –  I really don’t see a problem. You’ll know when your child is too old to be nearby while you’re having sex. Generally, when they’re old enough to wonder what’s going on and question whether your sounds and actions are loving or aggressive (children often mistake sex for fighting), it’s time to find a more private space. Having a healthy sex life makes you a happier parent and a positive role model for what adult intimacy feels like. That means you need to be selfish about your sex life. If your baby is napping, seize the opportunity! Always feel free to share your experience so we can learn too and email concerning anything you need help, advice on and hopefully solutions would be reached by our committed readers and I .bride2mom@gmail.com. ******Thanks to my wonderful Mrpossible for editing yet again****  
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