Simi sent this write up in and I am eager to hear your thoughts on this.    I am an aspiring ‘house Chef’, surrounded by married men at work (all male colleagues), and few female friends (don’t blame me, blame the shifting trend in loyalty these days). I have been advised by my colleagues on relationship issues (from general office lazy day talks), coming from men who have been really ‘naughty’ in the past and now happily married, I would love to share those Advices because most ladies jump into marriage for so many reasons (I have mine too *flips weave*), but from the guy angle hope this helps in helping us re-think and also re-strategize  Here we go!!!! Point 1 4209300175_e47b17117b_z Every man is a baby and needs as much attention as you also require…. It’s a garbage in garbage out world. Point 2 Yes he loves you, wants to marry you, call you wifey….. *drum roll* YOU ARE JUST WIFEY BY MOUTH… after the wedding ceremony you have been upgraded to ‘house mate’, you are only wifey if you bargain well, please him and don’t cause him to doubt your loyalty…. If he still prefers his boys night out EVERY single Friday into Saturday morning for a long period, one question when does he spend time with you then? It is logical to say this, work Monday –Friday, during the week minimal talks. Saturday when he gets home he’s probably hung over and grumpy, Sunday preparing for church/ work *enough said* Point 3 In as much as he likes being your ATM, that don’t mean you can’t be one!!! My colleague told a story of how his wife surprised him, he needed cash urgently asked around and kept meeting that ‘brick wall of’ I’m so sorry, I’m out of cash. He got home a day to the deadline and told his wifey: Colleague: I have this deadline and I need about 150,000 naira Colleagues wife: Ok Colleagues phone 5minutes later: Alert of 150.000 naira Colleagues wife: you will pay me interest of 50k oh!!! We bursted into laughter at work from the story, but what hit me was when he said, my wife covered me and she had my back, even though I know how hard it is for women to throw out lump sums… Point 4   Unknown1   If you truly love your man, DON’T LOVE HIS: phone browsing history,  his iPad / tablets apps (the ones that could make you go crazy) I was told by another colleague that, if your man sees you as not interested in his dirty business, knowing that you know (women are natural FBI’s except they formatted that part of them) he would start spilling and sometimes even ask for your help on how to get out of it (if you are wise to advise him in the same ‘not interested’ mood to leave the act). Point 5 Somedays, you would need to play the fool in the relationship…. A little brush on his ego, could bruise your relationship. First attempt at writing, I still love my cooking/ kitchen… I hope someone learns from this as I am still learning…   Written by Simi Do you agree to all Simi has said and guys is this true?  If you have a write- up to share , please send to my mail, bride2mom@gmail.com
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