This topic is very interesting, as it is a big deal when it comes to relationship or marriage. The conversation goes this way most times, “how old is he? hmmm… I don’t think he is mature enough…Oh he is too old!!!… Gosh! You want to marry someone that is this young and risk looking older than him in future? Hmm, they will ask if you are his mother or wife…How old will he be when your kids are five? 55?…”
It is hard enough to find a good man, then the society wants to pressure you to leave him!(enemies of progress…lol) Parents will almost never agree to their sons marrying an older lady they would think its some voodoo or spell the lady cast on the guy. I know some men don’t tell their parents because of the drama that would unfold. There is also this thing at about people in the same age group getting married “A girl in her 20’s is as mature, if not more mature than a man in his 30’s” Please I wasn’t the one that said it…Therefore implying that if you marry a guy in this same age group, while you are thinking like a 30 – year – old lady, he would be stuck in 18? I personally think age does not matter but it depends on how you are with the person, maturity…If he is way older than you, does he rub it in your face? Can you guys connect on some level that would make you a happier person? Does he plays the old man card and always want to put you down on how you are a small girl? Run oh run! There was this friend, that wanted to date me, he was older than me with just seven years but every time we talked, he must chip in the fact that I am a ‘small girl’…when I tell him something I did to discipline a younger one, he would laugh so hard and say, ” So you are taking disciplinary measures on someone, you small girl” I will try to explain but he will still say “What do you know, small girl?”
It is hard enough to find a good man, then the society wants to pressure you to leave him!(enemies of progress…lol) Parents will almost never agree to their sons marrying an older lady they would think its some voodoo or spell the lady cast on the guy. I know some men don’t tell their parents because of the drama that would unfold. There is also this thing at about people in the same age group getting married “A girl in her 20’s is as mature, if not more mature than a man in his 30’s” Please I wasn’t the one that said it…Therefore implying that if you marry a guy in this same age group, while you are thinking like a 30 – year – old lady, he would be stuck in 18? I personally think age does not matter but it depends on how you are with the person, maturity…If he is way older than you, does he rub it in your face? Can you guys connect on some level that would make you a happier person? Does he plays the old man card and always want to put you down on how you are a small girl? Run oh run! There was this friend, that wanted to date me, he was older than me with just seven years but every time we talked, he must chip in the fact that I am a ‘small girl’…when I tell him something I did to discipline a younger one, he would laugh so hard and say, ” So you are taking disciplinary measures on someone, you small girl” I will try to explain but he will still say “What do you know, small girl?”
If he is younger and makes you feel old, for example says stuff like, “Omg! You look old in that dress”, “Old mama” even if he is joking, calls you a cougar or wrinkled old lady, talk to him about it except you are enjoying it, if he doesn’t change then run because chances are, it will hurt you later. I feel if he keeps talking to you in this manner, there is the possibility of some sort of insecurity in that relationship, low self-esteem and that is emotional abuse right there. In all, if a man/lady is mature, age flies into the closet or what do you guys think?This is just my opinion though. Ladies can you date a guy way older or younger than you and guys can you date a lady older than you? What does age difference mean to you?
I can only date pple dt r 5-11yrs older Dan me…anytin below n above dis age group 4gerrit!!!
Me won’t date an older chic o
I’m 26 and my boyfriend is in his early 40s he doesn’t look his age, doesn’t make me feel like a small girl, always ask for my opinion on any issue, takes my advice and always respects me. I love him and I don’t care about the age difference.
Nice piece
i dont care about age at all. it is a number……am 27 and my husband is 47. he loves to pieces and respect me alot
there is a difference between being in a relationship and studying history. thou shalt not live in two generations simultaneously, to this end i am an advocate of +/- 2 years, more +2, anything more might as well adopt me as a child.
Age rarely matter when love is involved: if you love someone why would it matter how old he/she is? I had a teacher whose husband was 10 years older and they are very in love. I know of people who are 20 years apart, age wise, and they are doing great. Age is just a number and it doesn’t have to be a burden or a setback.