Is it just me or  do you guys also get totally shocked the way some married men compliment single or married ladies inappropriately? I was going through Facebook recently and I saw a friend’s picture, just before I could comment, I saw a married man say, “wow! Those eyes are burning through my soul” I was so shocked to say the least, there was this compliment a governor gave to Omotola Jalade, standing by his side ” Now I see why they call you Omo sexy” Gees! It was like someone slapped my ear and I almost ran under the ground because his wife was there, then some days ago I was chatting with a married man that said he wanted to marry me in those days and next thing he kept throwing out, “I really miss you, I believe in you, give me your number let me call to hear your beautiful voice”, are you for real? I asked about his lovely wife and kids thinking that will put his head straight, he answered and just continued… MrPossible and I just looked at it and we were stunned, laughed also but it wasn’t funny, Is it some sort of cluelessness or just plain stupidity? I have had a guy tell me, ” Yes I am getting married but it would have been you” and another called me on my birthday and said ” how will I forget your birthday, it’s the most important date in my life” huh? So your kids birthday and your wedding date is not as important as a single girl’s birthday? What do you expect people to think of your wife? Why make her look like a fool in public…Such a shame! When I was younger, I detested guys that compliment sexy, if I am your wife, fine and girlfriend (maybe it’s okay) but if you just see me and say you look sexy, It raises a red flag in my head, that this guy is not a “good boy” (with all due respect to guys who don’t know how to compliment otherwise…oya learn!). After reading that married man’s comment then this topic came to mind, what compliment is appropriate for a married man to pay to a lady other than his wife? Married and single ladies, this is your opportunity to tell your husbands and married men how you think they should compliment other ladies or you (single ladies), so they will change for the better as some of these married men innocently do this. Based on my findings, below is what seem inappropriate for a married man to say to another lady and the pictures below is what your wife MAY see when you say that. Unknown1
  • You are hot: This should not be said to any one except your wife and if she is there when you make that comment but don’t say anything, just know you are not safe
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  • You are sexy: We may have flabby tummies and may not look same because we gave birth 2months ago but the only person with a banging body is ME.
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  • You are gorgeous: There can be only one gorgeous person, you better choose and pray you make the right choice
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  • You are very portable: She is portable all right, why don’t we put her into my bag and take her home
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  • You have beautiful eyes: Bobo what did your eyes go and look for in her eyes? Ghen Ghen ghen
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  • Great legs you’ve got there: Hehehe… we shall get home!
  Compliment her items not her features: Statements like “your shape can confuse people”, “wow! Are you working out? It is bringing out your shape”, “you have beautiful eyes” far be it from your mouth! Instead compliment her dress, this dress looks nice, you look good, nice picture… you won’t also want to see your wife complimenting people with some kind of words. If it has to do with sexiness don’t do it! There are different schools of thought on how a married man should compliment and based on my research, many have quarrelled with their hubby for calling someone super cute, some beautiful, the extremist are of the opinion he should not compliment at all(girls are not smiling) and some don’t care how their husband’s compliment at all. What is your take on this? Are there other ways a married man should not compliment a lady and single ladies have you had any compliment from a married man that you thought was inappropriate? There is no doubt men see things, for the fact they are married, they are not blind but there should be a difference with the way you compliment your wife and other ladies. Simply put, every lady and what she thinks is inappropriate, if you think your wife finds something inappropriate then don’t do it.
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