If you think this is not serious then ask people around, I have often heard don’t tell your spouse everything, you can tell him ‘this’ but don’t tell him ‘that’ and sometimes I get confused. I remember just before my wedding, one of the ‘wise counsels’ I received was , “never tell your spouse anything negative about your family, if not he will eventually use it against you” I was surprised so there are things to say and not say?. I hear people say “oh I did not tell my spouse this, I can never tell him that and I am just there wondering, Is there something I don’t know. recently in this confusion, I was talking to Mrpossible and you see when I talk to him, even things I don’t plan to say, at least at that time, I mistakenly say it, knowing I can gossip to just one person, my mouth runs, so I made a statement and immediately said “oops! I wasn’t suppose to tell you that” the truth is that, that gist was not meant for that time and he said”you won’t hide things from me, would you?” I think if you see your spouse the way you see yourself then you can share everything,however timing is key.This is my opinion, what is yours? Should your spouse know everything or should we practice selective disclosure, what are the kind of things to tell and what are the type to keep? I think some people have had very bad experiences; have you gone through any experience that made you say ” I will never tell this man/woman anything again”? What happened? Feel free to use the anonymous button.
