You hear stuff like, ” did you see him last week, he was doing this.. Did you see the way she dressed to church on sunday?” And these conversations ends with “and he is a pastor’s son.” Most of us are guilty of this, what is it we actually expect? That because they are pastors kids, they are assistant angels…You even hear ignorant church members saying ” since the devil could not get to the pastor, he attacked the children…” I am no pastors kid but growing up, I was under a lot of scrutiny because at the time, one of my parents was not a Christian…They felt the pastors kids were the best candidates to be friends with . I remember people spreading all sort of story about me as a child and how they felt I wasn’t good enough Christian to hang out with their kids and the amazing part was, I could not understand why, because I was just a harmless kid sincerely. A Christian sister saw me and a friend walking together, I wore a trouser and shirt, looking very decent, while my friend wore a skirt that covered her legs, a suit and when the lady saw us , she said to my friend, ” how are you, your spiritual life, what fellowship do you attend in school? always know you are the light of the world okay? We are praying for you” then she turned to me and said “what’s up?” loll! Like there was no need to find out about my spiritual life because I was not looking like a spiritual candidate. I can imagine the pressure on the preacher’s son. They are expected to act in a certain way, talk and dress up in a particular way and we sometimes just forget that they are also just kids. They would go through the rebellious teen phase like every other child, they won’t be perfect as none of us were…. Is it not enough that they have their dad’s as role models which could be intimidating trying to meet up to the standard already set with the talks, the concerned citizens influence and everyone trying to dot their I’s and cross their T’s, which most times makes the preacher’s kid start bring out the rebel in them probably trying to say I am also human and those that are not bold enough to rebel, start acting the part of the script the church audience has written for them, and there goes the pretence, lies, etc. Our perception about people is very powerful and also tricky,we expect a good guy would have a particular look, dress and talk in a particular way and that’s how we get easily tricked, while a guy with a scar on his head is definitely bad! I am not saying a good guy shouldn’t be descent in his ways but watch your perception, get to know people for who they really are and also, can you give that preacher’s kid a break?! Advice them, pray for them but stop judging them based on the position of their parents,they are human not super humans, then again, who is perfect?
3 comments on “The Preacher’s Son”
You know, this was actually a discussion we had during morning devotion today. I agree with you, too much pressure is placed on Ministers’s kid, even from their parents. That is why they fall deep into “sin” because from the very beginning they never had someone to talk to or confide in. If they tell their sunday school teachers, they will be judged, if they tell their parents, they will be judged.
Even some pastor parents tell their kids “don’t disgrace me and your mum ohh, we will disown you.”
This is true Gee, preachers kids are not assistant angels. They also need to be heard and not judged. We need to share these struggles so that we can help right these wrongs.. Thanks for your input Gee.
You know, this was actually a discussion we had during morning devotion today. I agree with you, too much pressure is placed on Ministers’s kid, even from their parents. That is why they fall deep into “sin” because from the very beginning they never had someone to talk to or confide in. If they tell their sunday school teachers, they will be judged, if they tell their parents, they will be judged.
Even some pastor parents tell their kids “don’t disgrace me and your mum ohh, we will disown you.”
Imagine.
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This is true Gee, preachers kids are not assistant angels. They also need to be heard and not judged. We need to share these struggles so that we can help right these wrongs.. Thanks for your input Gee.