talked about this same issue… What do guys have to say this?
Leadership speaker and Senior Pastor of Daystar Christian Centre, Pastor Sam Adeyemi, while preaching on “Prepaper for the wedding”, on Sunday March 16th, shared his opinion about women proposing to the man and also gave insight on how they can go about it. Below is what he said
“Some people may ask, Pastor is it okay for it to be the lady that will tell the guy about marriage? Well, is there anywhere in the bible that says a lady can’t tell a man? The thing though is, a lot of time, it’s better for the guy to pop the question because men become suspicious a lot of time when they are being chased. They like to eat meat that they chased in the bush. They don’t like the one that falls on their lap dead. However., sometimes, all the signs are there that she is the one but he is not just speaking. Its also not healthy for the lady emotionally for the man to be so close to her and yet not say anything. So in such a case, a lady needs to prod him.
So how can a lady go about it? Ask him where are we going? I sense this is where the relationship is going, what do you think? Its either a yes or a no, but with that, you know where you are going instead of being on an emotional roller coaster and your heart is smashed into pieces at the end of the day”.Pastor Sam supported his position with the story of Ruth in the Bible who was taught to propose to Boaz whom she eventually married according to Ruth Chapter 3 in the Bible. He however emphasized the need for women to apply uttermost wisdom when proposing to a man.
It is unafrican for a lady to make the first move.if the man is not courageous enough to make the move,it means he’s not matured yet to handle the responsibility of a husband.
@anonymous, stay there and be sleeping on top bike, until your nephew brings your 40th birthday cake to you and you are single then you would know you should migrate out of that little africa in your head. It is not like any particular culture to propose to a man, its largely accepted to the unnatural, however even while we wait to be proposed to as women, it might be necessary to stir him in that direction with wisdom. This is a subtle form of proposal, which many women from diverse background has found to work and will continue to work until life is sustained on the sun.