I am not sure I am in the best position to write on this topic but it has been on my mind, I haven’t been in this situation but I am burdened by it based on some things I have seen. However, something happened recently that made me give a thought to writing about it.

Some weeks ago, I thought I was pregnant and though I have a baby already I was very excited that there may be another baby and could not contain myself, kept telling my hubby, what if I am pregnant? I already felt great and thought that my prayer to God for a stressless pregnancy has been answered, I started making plans on how I will blog all the details, heck!I already started writing….You may ask “why are you being so dramatic?” I did not think I was being dramatic at all, Period had delayed for two weeks and I was having most of the signs…Can I tell you something? Once you think you are pregnant, your mind would work with your body by giving you some signs. I did not stop there, I got pregnant test kit and could not wait to check once I got home, after checking the first time, it was inconclusive, I was disappointed but still held on and checked another day, buying a more expensive test kit this time around, then it showed a very faint line that I could be pregnant but that wasn’t still enough for me, I made up my mind to buy the most expensive test kit I see, the next time I went to the pharmacy but hubby stopped me.

 One day when we went out, I told him not to bother coming out as it was only few groceries I had to buy, as soon as I stepped out of the car, you could see the spring in my steps as I quickly dashed to the pharmacy thinking hubby did not see me and I bought the most expensive test kit they had and when I got home, I quickly rushed to the toilet, locked myself in it, checked and came out looking defeated then hubby said “I saw you when you got it, so what was it?” I said ‘Negative’ I was sad but was not yet deterred and since this test kit came with two sticks, I gave myself another week and checked again, yet nothing! Two days later, I knew I definitely was not pregnant… I cannot tell you how disappointed and sad I fel but maybe not as sad as you…

Have you ever wanted something so bad and yet it did not pan out the way you thought it would, are there delays and whenever the matter comes up, its either you get defensive, depressed or offended…you feel fragile and think you are walking on a thin thread that could break anytime, do you feel incomplete?

Pregnancy is one delay that most people don’t really have to talk about, you just see them and you kind of know that they want that baby, sometimes not because they are ready but because of the pressure the society gives them, the question people ask them knowingly or unknowingly, the look, making us become too conscious because we kind of think we know what everyone is thinking.

In Africa, it is the norm that after the first nine months of marriage everyone would start looking out, if you are pregnant and also asking you questions not in a bid to hurt you but this puts a lot of pressure on the new couple and this is not good for a marriage
This write-up is for those experiencing one delay or the other, I want you to take a break from this write-up and try remember all the delays you have experienced and when answered by God, did you ever think after everything “if only I knew it would turn out this way, I wouldn’t have worried half as much as I did?”

I remember I was in a quagmire when it came to who I will spend the rest of my life with and I thought, prayed and needed specific answers, I was scared that I could end up with the wrong person but looking back now, I have come to realise that God has got me, same way he has got you, he has everything planned out for your good and knows what is best for you…it may seem too slow for you but God is always on time so don’t give up, whatever seem to be delayed will be answered in the best way that it will soothe you at the end of the day because all God does for us , is for our good.
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