I remember meeting my in-laws for the first time, I was nervous as hell! I did not even know I would meet them that day and net thing, my boyfriend now husband said, erm, I am coming to visit you, he coincidentally met my parents and his parents asked that he brings me over, since I was in town for a short while, so he took permission from my parents and whisked me to visit his parents, the biggest question was what do I wear, finally sorted that out, it was a three hours drive, the longest of my life, questions like, would they like me, what would I say, but Mrpossible kept saying just relax and be you, don’t do extra and that is how I met them o and they asked me plenty questions ehn, lollll! like the normal get-to-know -you questions then they went into, how did you meet, what do you love about our son, you need to see me saying, he is caring, he is this, chai!, it was a hot burning sit men, they asked if I would like to marry him,hahahaha! before nkor! ‘who go see good man nor marry lool’, but I politely said, I think that is what we are looking at and then it was rounded up by so what are you waiting for? Chai! that question just turned my belly to sugar factory, I almost stretched my hand to Mrpossible to say “oya put ring fast fast, lnshort throw it, i would catch it, lolll, just kidding. I just smiled and looked towards bobo, in my mind I was like “so I don’t have to wait and you you are sitting pretty and haven’t given me ring yet,” my brothers and sisters that ring came 11 months later o( wickedness in high places…lol). Well ,there were more questions but since this is not a past question kind of thing, as you cannot use my question to rehearse your visit to your in laws then make I stop here. In all they made me feel very comfortable and welcome, so don’t be afraid, do you, don’t go extreme and you would be fine. 
Please tell us how to keep him during the chase, some people are desperate and cannot hold themselves as the number of their friends getting married increases. Okay first of all, I would go to say, you do not have to do anything that affects your value to keep a guy during the chase,from what you said, it is him chasing, just to paint it literally , have you ever seen a person chasing someone and the ‘chasee’ is trying to keep the chaser chasing? NO! There is always something that attracts a guy/girl to the person she is dating and if that thing is still there, you are being yourself and yourself resonates well with your partner then they would stay, they would be there with you and you won’t have to bother how you would keep them, when you start bothering how to keep your boyfriend or girlfriend and going through a lot to make them stay or even bending your rules then guess what? You would lose them, you don’t even know what they saw in you to make them come in the first place , you may compromise one of those things and then they won’t value you again. I understand that when all your friends are getting married it is almost like a relay, everybody handing baton to the next and next thing they hand to you and you cannot run, all of a sudden you feel all eyes on you, you have disappointed people and everybody is waiting for you to make the move and there is simply no move, that is not easy at all, you may even be in a relationship at the time and you know the boy is not husband material, all of a sudden you start thinking you can manage him, look here! after the wedding and everyone has eaten rice, taken picture and gone home and both of you are together, would you be happy? don’t pressure yourself because your friends are getting married or because society expects you to get married at a certain time, just ask yourself, would i be happy at the end of the day, would it be worth it? then decide. You don’t need to do anything to make your boyfriend to stay or keep chasing you, just be you or an improved version of yourself that you want to be, and whoever tire to chase, make e sit down drink water,after all not everybody can run a marathon. 
Hello Obehi, Please must one have sex with a guy before marriage? because most guys ask for sex before anything else If I haven’t said it before, I am of the opinion that you wait till marriage to have sex, if he is asking you for sex before anything else, then you should not be with him, even a guy that is sexually active that loves you, would want to know you first. At the end of the day, it all boils down to what your values are, if anyone is making you change what your values are to suit them, then you need to walk away because a real guy/lady would see and respect and preserve your values. Your comments are important, so if you have anything to add to this or something entirely different to say, I would appreciate that
