I usually pride myself in being a good judge of character and ask my friends they will say the same thing, it is like a gift, I can literally give a detail about your personality just after a conversation( I wonder how I could not use this to help myself in failed relationships). This time was different though, after doing all my checks and balances on a person I met and made my conclusions,I found out I was wrong,(madam know it all) though she had her weaknesses which I had noticed, her good side was amazing and as I got to know the person, I liked her more and found myself even trying to stop liking her…Funny how we think we know people from one conversation or how it is easy to judge people without even just getting to know them, we meet them and maybe the first day we don’t click and next thing we build our walls, draw up conclusions not knowing who they are and give them no room to get to know us at all…I am not saying everyone should be your best friend just because you are trying to make this world a better place but let us come down from our high horses and don’t judge people or act we are perfect, who knows, they may not be able to stand you too as you are not perfect(Inshort your personality may stink).
Everyone has a story so let us be careful how we judge them, she may be very arrogant because of what has happened to her in her past, he may seem to self absorbed because he had no one look after him growing up, she may be always sad because she was raped by her dad and lost her childhood so before we sit down to be a judge, let us try walk a mile in her shoes.
Also just a tip, if you are having a bad day and think you have the right to carry it out on people you meet on your way…the terrible driver that won’t just stop speeding, the slow coffee seller, the annoying secretary , the little child that seem to be in your face….Wait till you hear their story, every face has a story and they may be going through something worse than you are.
so true, once i had an experience. went to pick my kids at sch and scratch another parent’s car. just a little scratch and the driver called her . she insisted that i fixed the car. the driver and i drove around town for hours, this lady not caring that her kids were in the car. we finally fixed the a for less than 500 naira. thats how little the scratch was. i immediatly took note of the lady’s kids and kept looking out to see the mum.took some time to get to know her and shes a really nice person
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I recently learnt in a leadership development forum that people are usually defined by their stereotypes, reputation and core values. Many don’t get past the stereotype stage and judge others based on preconceived notions which are most times half truths or outright incorrect. The mature stage is to strive towards being defined by core values. It helps you have a more objective view of the world around you and it definitely will help personal relationships, work performance and general well being. N.
Very nice and interesting read. If we try put ourselves in other people’s shoes, it could sometimes help us know where they are coming from and act accordingly
True! There’s this saying i love ” Be nice to everyone for everyone is fighting their own battle” its not exactly that but yeah something similar..We never know peoples story so we should always be nice, that’s no excuse for some stupid behaviours though but still we should cut people some slack and bring out the best in them. God help us all and give us the wisdom to live life.