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I guess this is familiar to most brides or brides to be … you hear the wedding comes once in a lifetime which is true except you are in Hollywood where you can have two in a year.
Over the years, from what I have seen, a wedding is a big deal which is not all bad in itself. Also the wedding is the time where the bride is permitted to throw tantrums to friends and family and she is overlooked most times because it would be passed as she is stressed or something of that sort ( very wrong behaviour by the way) take a deep breath brides, the wedding would still go as planned but what about the marriage?
Please do not get me wrong , it is good to plan the wedding with all your strength and vigour, yeah! it is almost the only day you become a princess with your prince charming
( yep! like the fairytales)…When my elder sister got married, I still remember that look in their eyes, it was like they could not wait to start their lives together and I told myself “until I find a man that would make me feel that way, I would wait ” I did not want a situation while everyone is dancing at the wedding, I would be afraid for the party to end because I am not sure of who am going to start my life with… Some have planned very colourful weddings and go home with the groom who is also a wife beater, womaniser and other sorts, some are not even sure about the guy… they are just sure, he proposed and Yay! they are out of the “struggling singles market”. Is it not better to be single than to rush into something you are not sure about?
The truth is after the wedding, the glitz and glamour, people might remember how beautiful your wedding was and may even refer to it for the rest of their lives but you live in the reality of things….Is it worth it?
Now am talking to the singles, please before you say “yes” to anyone and finally walk down the aisle be sure, he is the one, be sure you would be happy during and after the wedding ceremony…I mean be sure you are not settling for the quickest person that came your way.
For those in good/great marriages, remember to keep doing what you are doing and more, also know there is a place for prayers in any relationship.
To those who feel it could be better in their marriage, prayer is important and also communication is key.
Any other advice and do you all agree with this?
Totally agree cos what really counts isn’t the frivolous activities but the life after that day. Your wedding might be just as in the fairy tales but your marriage might be a ship wreck. So Ladies, don’t just plan/pray for the wedding, do same for your marriage as well. God bless Us all
So true. Unfortunately most couples invest more time in preparing for their wedding and very little or no time invested in preparing for marriage. The reverse should be the case. Wisdom is what most people lack. Pray for wisdom and everything would be alright. Cheers!
You took the words straight out of my heart. My thoughts exactly!
I’ve got a question. My partner is apparently going through hard times and is really letting it affect our relationship. I’m in a long distance relationship. I’m really trying to be there for him but I feel like I’m the only one making effort. I’m also going through hardship at the moment but can’t talk to him about it ’cause he won’t leave room for it. I’m not even sure what to do anymore. I can’t even say how I feel ’cause I’ve now become a nagger. Is there anything else I can do? I feel like he’s being sooo selfish and does not understand how much his actions make me sad.
Hi Anon 18:42, I put up your story above, you can check it out and feel free to send a mail to bride2mom@gmail.com