Nowadays you hear different opinions on who should and who should not pop the question…It is common place that a guy should be the one to make the first move but how I wish life were simpler though and I know many people wish that too…
What about just meeting a guy or girl and after you’ve known the person as friends or even if you just admire the person, you just walk up to them and say I like you or I admire you…Some guys will see that as cheap, some will like it, some will say, it is a guy thing and no girl should do it but who set the rules though?
I know some people will soon go all biblical on me and say “He who finds a wife”…
What about just meeting a guy or girl and after you’ve known the person as friends or even if you just admire the person, you just walk up to them and say I like you or I admire you…Some guys will see that as cheap, some will like it, some will say, it is a guy thing and no girl should do it but who set the rules though?
I know some people will soon go all biblical on me and say “He who finds a wife”…
Please who should make the first move , the guy or the girl? Guys what do you think about girls that make the first move?
Charles Oputa a.k.a Charly Boy, and his South American born wife, Diane, popularly known as Lady D have been married for 35years. And during a recent interview with Vanguard, Charlyboy revealed his wife had actually proposed to him, intimidated him into marrying her.
Excerpt:How I met my wife:I met my wife in 1974/1975 in a hair saloon in Boston, USA. I went to do my hair there when I saw this beautiful lady with an overflowing hair. I admired her beauty and decided I was going to invite her to a party that never happened. She accepted my invitation and the party was just me and her in my limousine and I asked my driver to drive us round town. While we were cruising, we talked and that was how we started.
I didn’t know she was going to be my wife. I wanted to marry a Nigerian and not an American. But she was all over me, and when I wanted to return to Nigeria in 1980/1981, she bought her own ticket under the guise that she was coming to spend two weeks in Nigeria, only for her to end up spending six months. So, my parents were worried that she should go back to her country to give me chance to look for a wife. She was supposed to book for a ticket to return to America. One day, she woke up and said to me: “Marry me or I will never come back to Nigeria.” That was how I was intimidated into marrying her. I didn’t propose to her, rather she was the one who proposed to me. That’s why I said I was intimidated into marrying her.
So what do you guys think?
The guy should! That’s the proper and right thing.. biblically; Man is the head, A woman was made from the rib of a Man. The bible says A man should leave his father and mother and Glen to his wife. The bible also said ” he that finds a wife finds a good thin” in all this man came first.,B4 d woman! So in proposal the man should!
The guyyy oh! Leav Charly boi, e own get comma.
‘I know some people will soon go all biblical on me and say “He who finds a wife”… ‘ These sort of statements makes it hard for Christians to express themselves. When a christian quotes the Bible in whatever they say it usually is not about ‘going biblical’ on anyone. It’s because the Bible is the foundation upon which we as Christians should be living our lives. Anything outside the Bible (God’s word) is living according to the world’s standards.
This topic is debatable because different people have their own perspectives and preferences. Personally, my perspective and preference is that men are left to do the asking. However, women can make themselves approachable, leave hints or take action that will cause the man involved to ask. The reason why I prefer that the man do the asking is that marriage like every other institution involves a division of labour. According to the Bible, the man has more of a leadership role, is the priest of the home and the covering of the woman. In the case where a woman does the asking, it means she is taking that leadership role. My question here is, does her leadership end there or in the entire relationship she continues to take the lead? Can she sustain this leadership position? Was she built to? If she carries on taking the lead who then takes on her role in the relationship? Does she take up his role as well as hers? My point is; where will she stop with this?
This topic is debatable because different people have their own perspectives and preferences. Personally, my perspective and preference is that men are left to do the asking. However, women can make themselves approachable, leave hints or take action that will cause the man involved to ask. The reason why I prefer that the man do the asking is that marriage like every other institution involves a division of labour. According to the Bible, the man has more of a leadership role, is the priest of the home and the covering of the woman. In the case where a woman does the asking, it means she is taking that leadership role. My question here is, does her leadership end there or in the entire relationship she continues to take the lead? Can she sustain this leadership position? Was she built to? If she carries on taking the lead who then takes on her role in the relationship? Does she take up his role as well as hers? My point is; where will she stop with this?
The guy is designed a hunter by birth. He sure needs to find his “game”. I will run from a girl that chases me. But will also shift from the one that unnecessarily forms. As a girl, if you like a guy. Let him know through other means. I like it when I know a girl likes me. But if she gets too daring to do the asking out…I don bail biko! Concerned citizen.