It is a great change when you just give birth to kids because all of a sudden you realize that there are loads of decisions you would be making daily, that you never thought you would, decisions like should they wear Pampers or Huggies? Should they be breastfed or formula fed? Should they eat canned fruits or organic fruit, Should they use diaper rash or not? and even more difficult ones like hospital choice, with all these decisions going through your head and even more, then you see someone correcting your every move, the funny thing is, you don’t know them from anywhere. It can get quite annoying and it is called Mothering. [bctt tweet=”Mothering: When another mother schools you because they think their method of parenting is better than you.“] So have you ever been mothered?

After having BabyJ, I started going to the gym  and while I workout babyJ  would be lounging in her car seat. Everyday I go there, the older experienced mothers would not fail to drop a word or two of advice which I learnt to appreciate but there was this girl that I  had sensed her ‘smarty’ tendencies from afar, from trying to correct us in some gym routine or saying, “I have to do my training privately because you guys are too slow…” When I meet smarties like that, I respect myself by avoiding them. One day during the routine, babyJ started crying, so I took a break and brought out a can of heinz baby food for my little girl, then I just heard a loud voice behind me saying, ” what are you feeding your daughter?” Shwu! I shock, I said food, she said, ” is that food? You young girls of nowadays, you want everything fast fast…” I know you would have a picture of an elderly woman in her late 30s or early 40s, my dear, if this girl was too old and we went to same secondary school, she would have been 3 years ahead of me in class…I did not know what to say and she went on by asking to see the canned food, looked at it and said how poisonous  it is and how I can blend carrot and some other things for the baby instead of this ‘JUNK’ and you know when someone is advising you but it seem the person is saying it for others to hear…it was clear that I was being mothered…I later found out Miss Smarty or do I say Mother Smarty had a 6year old and maybe that is what made her feel she had to share/ dump her ‘wealth of experience with me’.

My advice to all the ‘Mothering’ ladies out there, approach helps, don’t come and use your wealth of knowledge to crap on me…most mothers already constantly battle with themselves, hoping they are giving their best then all of a sudden you give them a “you ain’t got the answer” in a Kanye West manner, If I catch you, Oya receive politeness.

Have you ever been ‘mothered’ how were you mothered and how did that make you feel? Or are you a ‘Motherer’?