Since the coming of Lady A, it has not been an easy something. I try so much to juggle between being a mum and a wife and there are days I feel overwhelmed because I don’t want any of my babies to feel left out forgetting that I am not the messiah… I did not know someone felt kicked to the curb o but I kind of sensed it but just let it be, how many babies can a young girl take care of, at some point you prioritize and feel one can handle it better.. One day I had a free time and decided to ping my booboo on when he would be coming home and we have this style of pinging sometimes with songs or sending the songs as voice note in our own voice especially flavours song (onyelema)…lol! so he would send something like ” because you too hot yo! 100 wax” so I decided to ping him a line of Flavour’s song, picking from our old habit and I typed ” Have you seen my beautiful baby?” and the next question I got was “who is that?” and I said “you nah, is it that bad that you don’t know you are my baby again, do you feel’ un-babied’? It was later on he said I have un-babied him…I felt bad for him because throughout that period of my grumpiness and the overwhelming phase, everything he had done was trying to be there for me and the kids and me I just totally ignored him, in my mind I was like “I have two babies here, don’t just add your own” lolll. When he has a new haircut and dare to ask how he looks, in my mind I will say “How you look, Are you serious now? I just had a new baby” then I would grudgingly say, ”you look good”. He notices The way I see it, every man needs to be reassured that though things may not be the same at the beginning of a new birth, there is enough love to go around. You may not make breakfast, pick out his clothes but the little things like telling him he looks good just after a haircut or when going out, calling him at mid-day, asking him how his day was when he returns and listening to him tell you even if you don’t hear everything….lol, they all matter, so my advice is, when the babies start coming don’t un-baby that man, remember he is the first real baby. [bctt tweet=”Have you ever been un-babied?”]
