You deserve better… A letter from me to you

Hi you,
Yes you, not her, no not him…You! Do you know you deserve the best? I get to say this in any post that relates to relationship but I need to emphasise it here, do you know he or she is not right for you? if he abuses you, insults you, calls you names and make you feel less, you should not be with him…If she compares you to your friends/other guys, tells you, you cannot afford her, shares you with another guy and think you cannot do anything important with your life…You deserve better!

How long do you want to stay to patch things up? How long would you go on fixing things, how long would you be patient and wait for him or her to change? Relationship is not a do or die affair… Oh you think you cannot love again? You would be amazed how love will sweep you off your feet. Do you think he knows you through and through and no one knows you like he does? You would meet someone that just after a few conversations, it would feel like you have been friends forever.

You deserve to smile, you deserve to be happy, you deserve to be appreciated, to glow, to dream and for someone to encourage that dream, you deserve to laugh, you deserve a romance that feels like that in the movies and of course you deserve the best.

Oh you were abused as a child, your life just spiralled out of control from then on, with everyone taking advantage of you and this new relationship though he slaps you once in a while when you annoy him but he treats you better than any other guy you have dated…You deserve better.

Who told you because you gave up your virginity or had sex with him you have to take his abuses, his cheating, lies and tantrums do you feel stuck, tied there for life and think another guy may see you as trash? Who told you “all guys are like that, manage the one you have, it doesn’t get better”? Who told you sometimes you have to roll with the punches and abuse? Who said you will lose out when you leave? Who told you there are no good /great guys or girls out there? Who told you there is no one like the first? Who told you your life is messed up?

Sometimes I wonder why we stay in a relationships full of negative drama, knowing the future is bleak and the outcome is disastrous…Why are you getting so stressed out and working sooooo hard to make the relationship work and perfect… My friend says “Marriage is a lot of work even when you are with a great partner then you marry a partner that was a tough cookie/ too much drama before the marriage started, you are in for a ride”

Sit back and ask yourself, why you are still in that relationship when you guys are so different, where you fight about the things that are important to him or he doesn’t support your dreams and shuts it up whenever you talk about it or laugh you to scorn? why are you in that relationship where everyday he beats you and cheats on you, where she insults you and make you feel less of a man? Why are you in a relationship where you are not yourself, where you cannot be your best, where you are not comfortable? why??? Why are you in a relationship with a good guy or girl that you don’t feel anything for? Why are you in a relationship where you guys have no meeting point? Where you hate to spend time together because you get bored….

Why have we set the bar so low on what we think we deserve? We see a loving couple and admire them but don’t want to dream we can be them because we don’t think we deserve it based on our past and other things that has happened in our lives…Please start dreaming big, start knowing you deserve the best and most especially start being who and what you think you deserve….Change that character, work on that personality, work on that aspect of you that you know need some help and soon enough people would think they deserve this new you….May I just point out that one of the reasons you deserve the best is because God has the best in mind for you